So, here’s the deal: you’ve met someone online, sent a few messages back and forth, and now you’re at the texting stage, in the process of arranging a date. The problem: you’ve been disappointed before and aren’t 100% sure whether you really want to go out with this person (I mean, they did just release the latest season of Grey’s Anatomy on Netflix. So.)
It’s Ok, I’ve been there and feel your pain. A few years ago, when I was online dating constantly, there was several occasions where I’d meet someone and despite there not being anything overtly wrong with them (ie. they didn’t display any “surely they’re a serial killer” vibes) I’d still feel on the fence about actually meeting them in person. After all, going on a date would require to remove myself from my couch and actually put on real pants. And let’s face it – in retrospect, I’ve been on some dates where I wish I’d had the foresight to just stay home with Meredith Grey and a bottle of Merlot.
If you’re not sure whether you want to go on a date, here’s a quick guide that should help you make the decision. Answer each question honestly and tabulate your score at the end.
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Why are you thinking of going on this date
a) You don’t really know that much about them, but they seem pretty chill and you have a few things in common. Basically you’re curious and think you could potentially want to maybe get to know them better.
b) Ugh, because you feel like you should. You’re so over your family always asking you, “why are you still single?!”
c) You literally don’t know.
2. What’s the texting situation like?
a) Pretty decent. You’ve learned a few things about each other – for example, you’re both obsessed with grilled cheese and 90’s hip hop – and there’s been a bit of witty banter back and forth.
b) Texting is sporadic and only to make plans.
c) They just sent you a meme of a cartoon turtle making out with Bill Clinton with the words “BOOBS” written across the top. You have no idea what this means.
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What’s the plan?
a) They’ve made a reservation at a cool new cocktail bar that also has retro arcade games in the back because you mentioned that you used to love to play Pac Man. If things go well, there’s a band playing next door that you can check out.
b) You’re not entirely sure, but you’re thinking casual drinks at a local watering hole.
c) They’re not sure and keep asking you, “I don’t care, what do you want to do?” When you ask them to just decide, they text back, “what’s your stance on fake blood?”
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Would you kiss this person?
a) They look pretty cute in their photos, so if you guys hit it off, you’d definitely be into it!
b) Not sure. They’re not your usual type so it would all depend if you have any chemistry in person.
c) Ugh. You don’t even want to go there. Shudder.
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What are you planning on wearing?
a) Your go-to “cute but casual” date outfit that makes you feel like a million bucks . You want to put your best foot forward.
b) Your everyday clothes, but maybe a bit more polished.
c) I have to put on real pants for this?
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How would you describe your level of excitement?
a) You’re not picking out china patterns yet or anything, but you’re pretty stoked to get to know this person better.
b) Moderate. Let’s see where this goes!
c) I’d rather clean my sock drawer.
The results:
Mostly A’s: It actually sounds like there’s decent potential here for a good date. Why are you reading this quiz? Go get ready!
Mostly B’s: It’s a coin toss. Sometimes the most low-key dates end up being surprise winners – or not. By the sounds of it, the date could go either way. So, why not give it a chance? Best case scenario: they end up being way more engaging in person. Worst case scenario: if the date is just “meh” you’ll have Netflix and wine waiting for you when you get back.
Mostly C’s: Even if this person isn’t a total serial killer, their texting skills and meme humor need some serious work. Plus, it sounds like you’re really not feeling the date. You should be at least somewhat excited to go out with someone new. If you’d rather do literally anything else than hang out with this person, I think you’ve got your answer.
